Comments on: My Type A Mom Come to Jesus Moment http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/ defining the circles that make me whole Thu, 15 Dec 2011 01:18:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Alli http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3109 Alli Thu, 01 Oct 2009 23:03:40 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3109 Abby, I once read a blog post by Heather (@spirittibee) about meeting up with bloggy/ homeschool friends. I got all bummed with the thought, "Man, I wish I had bloggy homeschool friends to meet up with." And then it hit me, why did they have to be bloggers? I had friends IN REAL LIFE I could spend time with. And that week I had some really excellent IRL time with friends in my neighborhood. It goes back to local/ tribe community. I hope to build on that as well. I met Robin (@pensieverobin) for the first time at Type A Mom. She lives in my city! I read her blog and know that, but we just never connected until last weekend. I hope to get some more Robin-time before another conference throws us together, because really it is silly to not reach out to those who are in our own area. Thanks for the thoughts! Abby, I once read a blog post by Heather (@spirittibee) about meeting up with bloggy/ homeschool friends. I got all bummed with the thought, “Man, I wish I had bloggy homeschool friends to meet up with.” And then it hit me, why did they have to be bloggers? I had friends IN REAL LIFE I could spend time with. And that week I had some really excellent IRL time with friends in my neighborhood.

It goes back to local/ tribe community. I hope to build on that as well. I met Robin (@pensieverobin) for the first time at Type A Mom. She lives in my city! I read her blog and know that, but we just never connected until last weekend. I hope to get some more Robin-time before another conference throws us together, because really it is silly to not reach out to those who are in our own area.

Thanks for the thoughts!

]]> By: @sweetbabboo http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3108 @sweetbabboo Thu, 01 Oct 2009 22:48:55 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3108 Like you and Stacy, I had many moments of alone at the conference (though not entirely alone as I attended and roomed with a great blogging friend). I guess, the biggest difficulty for me is authenticity. If I'm being true to myself, then I'm not the type to run up and introduce myself to someone just because I read their blog. It takes a LOT for me to really feel a kinship with someone and perhaps I haven't really been in the blogging community long enough to feel that way. The reality of me is that I maintain few but strong friendships. Despite technology being all the things that it is, for me, it still takes face time to establish that connection. I am well aware of the persona that I maintain in social networking despite wanting to be honest and open and I'm certain that most everyone does. There are just some things that I can't/won't broadcast for all the world. (And Twitter and blogs are all the world.) I guess the solution that I'm heading towards is to find/focus on a local tribe/community. People who I regularly connect with through social networking but also occasionally can meet up with in person. It may be old school of me, but it fits. My conference roomie Marty (@canape) established a local blogging community (@trianglemamas) and the relationships I have been able to form there are the best I've had in the blogging world. Maybe it's because I can have face time with them, maybe's it's because I feel more included as a contributor, or maybe it's both but having a smaller, local group has definitely made me feel more a part of the blogosphere even if it's only my teeny tiny corner of it. I do still however need to try to set goals, stick to a schedule, and participate better both at the local and broader level. Those are great goals, and I applaud you for spelling them out for me. I needed that. And perhaps next year, after a year of getting to know each other, we'll look like the group to be with. -Abby .-= @sweetbabboo´s last blog ..<a href="http://unst.blogspot.com/2009/09/type-mom-conference.html" rel="nofollow">Type A Mom Conference</a> =-. Like you and Stacy, I had many moments of alone at the conference (though not entirely alone as I attended and roomed with a great blogging friend). I guess, the biggest difficulty for me is authenticity. If I’m being true to myself, then I’m not the type to run up and introduce myself to someone just because I read their blog. It takes a LOT for me to really feel a kinship with someone and perhaps I haven’t really been in the blogging community long enough to feel that way. The reality of me is that I maintain few but strong friendships. Despite technology being all the things that it is, for me, it still takes face time to establish that connection. I am well aware of the persona that I maintain in social networking despite wanting to be honest and open and I’m certain that most everyone does. There are just some things that I can’t/won’t broadcast for all the world. (And Twitter and blogs are all the world.)

I guess the solution that I’m heading towards is to find/focus on a local tribe/community. People who I regularly connect with through social networking but also occasionally can meet up with in person. It may be old school of me, but it fits.

My conference roomie Marty (@canape) established a local blogging community (@trianglemamas) and the relationships I have been able to form there are the best I’ve had in the blogging world. Maybe it’s because I can have face time with them, maybe’s it’s because I feel more included as a contributor, or maybe it’s both but having a smaller, local group has definitely made me feel more a part of the blogosphere even if it’s only my teeny tiny corner of it.

I do still however need to try to set goals, stick to a schedule, and participate better both at the local and broader level. Those are great goals, and I applaud you for spelling them out for me. I needed that.

And perhaps next year, after a year of getting to know each other, we’ll look like the group to be with.

-Abby
.-= @sweetbabboo´s last blog ..Type A Mom Conference =-.

]]> By: Alli http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3105 Alli Thu, 01 Oct 2009 12:51:09 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3105 Tina I remember when I worked and feeling out of the loop because all these social connections I was becoming attached to were blocked. And now that I am home and have unlimited access, I definitely feel more connected. Of course there are days when I can't sit and tweet or text and feel out of the loop. But I think I'm ready to take the next step to make those connections more than loose connections, ykim? And as I've been saying, putting together concrete goals will be a first step. Tina I remember when I worked and feeling out of the loop because all these social connections I was becoming attached to were blocked. And now that I am home and have unlimited access, I definitely feel more connected. Of course there are days when I can’t sit and tweet or text and feel out of the loop. But I think I’m ready to take the next step to make those connections more than loose connections, ykim? And as I’ve been saying, putting together concrete goals will be a first step.

]]> By: Alli http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3103 Alli Thu, 01 Oct 2009 12:38:07 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3103 Thanks for the support on my blog, Daddy! Sometimes I am able to put my thoughts into readable comments. Thanks for the support on my blog, Daddy! Sometimes I am able to put my thoughts into readable comments.

]]> By: Alli http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3102 Alli Thu, 01 Oct 2009 12:37:26 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3102 You know, upon reflection, I have to admit I did have more of a community when I was heavily involved with PayPerPost and I still have ties to those bloggers. But I totally get what you are saying about changing community. Again, to pull out the homeschool example, now that we are homeschooling and blogging about it on crumleyblog.com, I have been actively seeking a place in that community. I can't just seek out bloggers because they are "big" but bloggers who resonate with me and my goals. You know, upon reflection, I have to admit I did have more of a community when I was heavily involved with PayPerPost and I still have ties to those bloggers. But I totally get what you are saying about changing community. Again, to pull out the homeschool example, now that we are homeschooling and blogging about it on crumleyblog.com, I have been actively seeking a place in that community. I can’t just seek out bloggers because they are “big” but bloggers who resonate with me and my goals.

]]> By: Tina Kubala http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3099 Tina Kubala Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:17:03 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3099 I don't feel part of a community in blogging. Nor in life, mostly. I'm not good at relationships. I'm good at a few intense ones and short term interactions, but not acquaintances over the long haul. With blogging, I read tons of blogs, even comment, but I don't feel like I've made anything but loose connections. It's fun and I enjoy it, but I don't have friends, just blogs I read. Some of my problem is that I don't have web access at work or anytime I'm not home in front of my computer. It seems like people who tweet and text all day are closer then those of us who don't have the work day connection. I assume you don't Tweet all day either with two wonderful boys to attend to. .-= Tina Kubala´s last blog ..<a href="http://tinakubala.com/2009/09/27/a-fall-meme.aspx?ref=rss" rel="nofollow">A Fall Meme</a> =-. I don’t feel part of a community in blogging. Nor in life, mostly. I’m not good at relationships. I’m good at a few intense ones and short term interactions, but not acquaintances over the long haul.

With blogging, I read tons of blogs, even comment, but I don’t feel like I’ve made anything but loose connections. It’s fun and I enjoy it, but I don’t have friends, just blogs I read.

Some of my problem is that I don’t have web access at work or anytime I’m not home in front of my computer. It seems like people who tweet and text all day are closer then those of us who don’t have the work day connection. I assume you don’t Tweet all day either with two wonderful boys to attend to.
.-= Tina Kubala´s last blog ..A Fall Meme =-.

]]> By: GrandPa Fred http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3096 GrandPa Fred Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:17:18 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3096 Thanks for the comments about community. Thanks for the comments about community.

]]> By: Allie http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3095 Allie Wed, 30 Sep 2009 04:44:15 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3095 My community is always changing , new people welcomed sometimes others are lost . There were many people at TypeAmom I had to go look up and they were "BIG" but I had never read them , it puts "Big" and "Little" in perspective for me. I wish you luck as you find your place! My community is always changing , new people welcomed sometimes others are lost . There were many people at TypeAmom I had to go look up and they were “BIG” but I had never read them , it puts “Big” and “Little” in perspective for me.

I wish you luck as you find your place!

]]> By: Alli http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3094 Alli Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:35:54 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3094 Yes! Knowing my community I think will come out of figuring out my blogging goals. I realize I've kind of already started over on crumleyblog.com trying to insert myself in the homeschool community. And here on Always, Alli I have slacked off on the photography side of things, but it is a community I definitely want to be a part of. So I get what you are saying... knowing my goals will probably help me know my community. Three of the women I wanted to meet were part of those two communities (two of them are part of both!) and in just a few hours I learned so much from them that I know will help me. Yes! Knowing my community I think will come out of figuring out my blogging goals. I realize I’ve kind of already started over on crumleyblog.com trying to insert myself in the homeschool community. And here on Always, Alli I have slacked off on the photography side of things, but it is a community I definitely want to be a part of. So I get what you are saying… knowing my goals will probably help me know my community. Three of the women I wanted to meet were part of those two communities (two of them are part of both!) and in just a few hours I learned so much from them that I know will help me.

]]> By: Jody http://alwaysalli.com/2009/09/29/post-type-a-mom-thoughts-a-come-to-jesus-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-3093 Jody Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:13:48 +0000 http://alwaysalli.com/?p=1094#comment-3093 As I read your post- and then the comment from Stacey (who I met and totally enjoyed chatting with)- I remember feeling that way after Blissdom. It took me a while, but I realized why. I don't read many of those blogging "rockstars". They are not in my community. While I love going to the conferences and meeting such amazing women, my community happens to be in the Midwest- the blogs that I read are in the 5 state area surrounding Iowa (except for a few). So don't feel alone. Just know your community and realize that many in it don't go to these conferences. You may find more of "your" people at Blissdom in Nashville. Myself, I created a conference in Iowa- www.iblogconference.com. .-= Jody´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.havekidwilltravel.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=29:welcome-to-have-kid-will-travel&catid=3:travel" rel="nofollow">Welcome to Have Kid Will Travel!</a> =-. As I read your post- and then the comment from Stacey (who I met and totally enjoyed chatting with)- I remember feeling that way after Blissdom. It took me a while, but I realized why.

I don’t read many of those blogging “rockstars”. They are not in my community. While I love going to the conferences and meeting such amazing women, my community happens to be in the Midwest- the blogs that I read are in the 5 state area surrounding Iowa (except for a few).

So don’t feel alone. Just know your community and realize that many in it don’t go to these conferences. You may find more of “your” people at Blissdom in Nashville. Myself, I created a conference in Iowa- http://www.iblogconference.com.
.-= Jody´s last blog ..Welcome to Have Kid Will Travel! =-.

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